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Break a negative habit by making its elimination part of a positive larger goal October 18, 2012

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Self-Discipline.
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As part of our programs of personal development or self-improvement, and ego management, we include looking for ways to accentuate our good habits and for ways to reduce or eliminate our bad habits.

I recently came across a comment of someone who eliminated their smoking habit.

This person indicated they were facing a number of serious challenges in their life, and decided that it was foolish to use up valuable energy through the habit; energy that could better put into meeting the challenges in life that the person was facing.

Overall, this translates into a concept of removing the energy-draining properties of a bad habit by making the elimination of the habit a key component in achieving a larger positive goal.

Instead of the focus being solely on the negative aspects of the habit, attention should thereby be given to the positive potential of increasing our contribution to achieving our goals in life and in our personal development key result areas, by eliminating the habit.

Why we need to focus on today October 15, 2012

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Living in the Now.
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It is important to manage the ego’s tendency to constantly shift back to the past and forward to the future.

Otherwise we can lose sight of the present, which is the only place we can really accomplish anything.

The ego, for example, seems to refuse to believe that the past cannot be recreated and thinks that the future can be lived in now.

Although it is true that we are each of us called upon to create our own future, we cannot do it by changing the past, nor can we actually act in the future.

We can only act in the now. We create the future with our actions today, in the present.

During a discussion with a self-help group, one of the participants offered up the following equation or formula for the group to consider:
One eye on yesterday + one eye on tomorrow = cross-eyed today