Ego management and the role of gratitude October 7, 2012
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Gratitude.Tags: abundance, controlling ego, ego management, personal growth, positive thinking, self-improvement
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One of the tendencies of our ego is that it often focuses on what is wrong with our life situation, rather than recognizing the positives.
This is frequently an automatic default setting of the ego.
To manage this tendency we need to consciously think of the positive areas in our lives that we should be grateful for.
This does not mean developing an exaggerated super-positive attitude in which we try to convince ourselves that we do not have any problems in our lives. Rather it’s a matter of creating recognition that there are balancing factors involving good circumstances.
You might want to take a few minutes from time to time and write down a half-dozen of the numerous aspects of your life that you are, or should be, thankful for.
Are you incorrectly assuming you have a lack of self-confidence? May 9, 2012
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Self-Esteem.Tags: personal development, personal growth, positive thinking, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-improvement
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Whether we identify our personal growth program by the name of self-improvement or personal development, there are times when each of us can suffer from occasional or long-terms bouts of a perceived lack of self-confidence.
However, I have found in my own efforts towards increasing my personal growth potential that what I might have considered a lack of self-confidence in myself is sometimes actually a lack of confidence in others, or a lack of confidence in systems, such as the workings or market variables of a workplace or a business I am trying to succeed in.
Other people for example, may not understand what we are trying to accomplish or they do not appreciate the approach we are taking. If this is causing you worry, it is not your self-confidence that is lacking; it is a lack of confidence in factors outside of yourself and perhaps beyond your control.
As such, this is not a matter of a lack of self-confidence, but rather a lack of confidence in external conditions and/or circumstances. So, we do not need to manage our ego to compensate, but instead look to the conditions that are causing us concern and work on possible solutions. This is not arrogance, unwarranted optimism, or having an overblown ego; it just means that we have a healthy respect for our own capabilities.
Additionally, most of us have varying degrees of confidence or self-confidence in our various personal aptitudes and skills. Few of us are excellent at doing everything. Recognizing our strengths and weaknesses and seeking ways to strengthen our weaker areas is a sign of maturity.
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