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Personal growth: The natural speed of self-actualization July 20, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth.
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Despite our human inclination to want speedy results in all that we do, the pace of personal development is slow and gradual – if it is to be meaningful and lasting.

Improving ourselves – whether it is spiritually, intellectually, or emotionally – is an evolutionary process, not a revolutionary one.

Self-improvement is not an exam that we can cram for, not a hundred yard dash, and not a box we can check-off with minimal effort.

Personal development results achieved very quickly are usually likely to be superficial and not long-lasting.

We can make a quick decision that we are going to improve ourselves in various aspects but the path to success is winding and not short, with both ups and downs.
As Dr. William B. Terhune observes:

“Patience pays big dividends. Patience is the ability to wait until events run their course, knowing that if you do, your opportunity will come; luck will turn your way. Success is largely a matter of being able to await the opportunity patiently, and then seizing it avidly.” (1)

(1) William B. Terhune, M.D., in his book Emotional Problems and What You Can Do About Them

— Dennis Mellersh


Personal growth: Is the uneventful life a key to happiness? July 20, 2017

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In our quest for constant improvement through our personal development efforts, there may be a downside.

Could “more” actually equal “less?”

Would we be better off seeking fewer self-actualization stimuli?

The philosopher/longshoreman Eric Hoffer made the following observation in a moment of self-assessment in an entry in a diary he was keeping:

“Early this morning on my way to work I felt a burning pain in my arms. It seemed to me for a moment that had I been without this pain I would have been wholly happy. In a moment like this I realize how lucky we are when nothing at all – good or bad – happens to us.” (1)

(1) Eric Hoffer, Working and Thinking on the Waterfro0nt

— Dennis Mellersh