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Personal growth futility: Trying to live totally in the now October 10, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Living in the Now.
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Many of us fail to follow the advice of those personal development experts who tell us to focus on, and live the present moment. We fail because, unless the present moment is a crisis or a totally absorbing experience, our thoughts will bounce around between the present, the past, and the future.

Without the past we would have no memory, and effectively, no life.

Without the future, we would have no imagination or hope.

By definition, imagination and hope embody a future scenario.

And, studies now show that we spend a lot more time thinking about the future than we do thinking of the past.

Indeed, the concept of personal growth, self-actualization, and self-improvement is anticipatory.

Perhaps if we were in a total meditative state, and constantly “in the zone”, so to speak, we could devote the bulk of our energy to thinking on the present moment, but leading a normal life, it’s not realistic.

More achievable is using the now, the present, this moment, as a basis of learning and appreciation which we can remember and use as a foundation for creating our future.

— Dennis Mellersh


Personal growth: Confucius on the self-improvement of leaders September 21, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth.
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If we aspire to being a good example to others within our sphere of influence, particularly if we are in a position of potential leadership, we obviously need to develop an overall personal character worthy of receiving respect.

Confucius teaches this lesson in The Analects by referring to the behaviour of rulers and the consequences of their behaviour.

“A ruler who has rectified himself never gives orders, and all goes well. A ruler who has not rectified himself gives orders, and the people never follow them.” (1)

If we look at the idea of rectifying oneself from a personal behaviour point of view, Confucius would have us correct ourselves by working at removing the erroneous or faulty aspects within our patterns of behaviour.

(1) As translated by David Hinton in his book, The Four Chinese Classics.

—Dennis Mellersh