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Personal growth futility: Trying to live totally in the now October 10, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Living in the Now.
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Many of us fail to follow the advice of those personal development experts who tell us to focus on, and live the present moment. We fail because, unless the present moment is a crisis or a totally absorbing experience, our thoughts will bounce around between the present, the past, and the future.

Without the past we would have no memory, and effectively, no life.

Without the future, we would have no imagination or hope.

By definition, imagination and hope embody a future scenario.

And, studies now show that we spend a lot more time thinking about the future than we do thinking of the past.

Indeed, the concept of personal growth, self-actualization, and self-improvement is anticipatory.

Perhaps if we were in a total meditative state, and constantly “in the zone”, so to speak, we could devote the bulk of our energy to thinking on the present moment, but leading a normal life, it’s not realistic.

More achievable is using the now, the present, this moment, as a basis of learning and appreciation which we can remember and use as a foundation for creating our future.

— Dennis Mellersh


Personal growth: Jumping off the cliff of self-actualization October 5, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Overcoming Fear.
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In discussing the many challenges in creative writing, Ray Bradbury gave some excellent advice which applies to the large-scale project of living life itself creatively and the more focussed innovative efforts we try to make in our self-development work.

Namely, that in all matters requiring creativity, we need to put aside our fears, jump off the cliff, and then build our wings on the way down.

We can gradually master the skills required in whatever project we are working on and can be assured of varying levels of success in learning those skills.

But in making the big leap into an entire philosophy of self-improvement, while realizing that it might not work takes a lot of courage.

And if we think about it too much, we will probably not be willing to gamble on making the required investment in time, commitment and effort.

But, for sure, if we don’t jump, we  won’t be making our wings, or soaring creatively.

— Dennis Mellersh