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Living in day-tight compartments: Difficult, but necessary June 6, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Living in the Now.
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At some point in our personal development work, many of us will come across the advice that we should try to live in day-tight compartments.

And, although it’s good advice, it’s also very tough to do consistently.

Most of us like to dream about the future, to make plans (often just in our heads) about what we would like to do with our lives. We like to think about all the possible options available to us and imagine our lives unfolding within those options and life-possibilities.

In this mind-frame, self-improvement opportunities are abundant, and we enjoy mentally imagining ourselves within these scenarios.

This type of personal growth projecting provides a pleasant and sometimes even mildly euphoric mental and emotional experience.

It’s enjoyable.

But, if we aren’t careful, it can also evolve into day-dreaming and hiding.

When we are young, the paths of life seem like infinite six-lane highways of potential that we can explore endlessly.

But with each new year, we will find that increasingly, the lanes of opportunity are actually finite and choices need to be made.

We can still plan, we can still dream, but we also need to start “doing” today and every day.

— Dennis Mellersh




Personal growth: Avoiding the trap of psychological time May 14, 2017

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By Dennis Mellersh

It is almost impossible for us to be happy in our current life if we remain anchored to the counterproductive habit of focusing on “psychological time” according to Eckhart Tolle.

Psychological time as Tolle describes it is an artificial intellectual construct in which we use our present moment, or the Now, to focus on the past, which we can no longer physically access, and the future, which is also impossible to physically experience.

The past is totally inaccessible, even though its influence exists in the present, and the future can only be influenced by what we do right now in the present moment.

The past inevitably contains some actual disappointments and the future might be full of potential disappointments; both time periods feature many “what-if” questions.

Tolle suggests that we can ask ourselves a simple question to see if we are being “taken over” by psychological time and dwelling on the past and the future, instead of fully experiencing the present moment:

“Is there joy, ease, and lightness in what I am doing? If there isn’t, then time [the past and the future] is covering up the present moment, and life is perceived as a burden or a struggle,” Tolle suggests.

With the present moment darkened both by past disappointments and regrets, and also by thoughts of potential future negative events it is not surprising there is little joy in the present.

Tolle believes that “When you act out of present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action. (1)

In contrast with psychological time, when you are fully involved in the present, in the Now, perhaps working on finishing a project that fully absorbs your attention right now, you are in “clock time” according to Tolle.

(1) Eckhart Tolle, Practicing The Power of Now, New World Library, Novato, California, 1999, 142 pages