Personal development bad habit: being too hard on yourself November 2, 2017
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Personal Development Potential.Tags: humility, life, personal growth program, philosophy, self-actualization, self-criticism, writing
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There’s not much use in our diligently following a program of personal growth, if at the same time we are constantly minimizing our accomplishments.
Humility is a desirable personal characteristic to cultivate, but taken too far, unwarranted humility can result in “putting ourselves down”, and subtracting from our self-confidence.
We are all familiar with the egotist, the braggart, the one who’s always right.
These types don’t need a self-actualization program – they are already perfect in every way.
But for the rest of us struggling with reaching our potential with self-improvement in a difficult world, we should not be so critical of ourselves; struggle is part of the human condition.
Nothing new here; just a reminder to show a little kindness.
In this case, to ourselves.
— Dennis Mellersh
Personal growth concept: Are we less optimistic as we age? November 1, 2017
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth.Tags: achieving goals, life, optimism, personal development potential, pessimism, philosophy, psychology, writing
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Are young people by nature optimistic, cheerful, upbeat, and assured, whereas older people are inevitably pessimistic, gloomy, despairing, resigned, and worried?
Although some people seem to be naturally pessimistic or optimistic, for most of us our emotional outlook will vary with our real-time circumstances and how we treat the present moment and our present overall stage in life.
When we are young, life seems like a super-highway, with no speed limits and many off-ramps to significant opportunities. At this stage of our growth all things seem possible. There is “lots of time” to do most everything.
So, we tend to be broadly speaking, optimistic.
As we grow older, however, and as we see time literally starting to “run-out” we come to the realization that all things are not possible, there is not unlimited potential, because, simply put, we will not have enough time to do them all.
At this life-stage, we can still be upbeat and optimistic about “life” in general, but we now know that we need to establish our priorities on the basis of a time-available-focused algorithm.
In our self-improvement efforts, we do not come easily to realizing, and more important accepting, that life has a stop-sign.
— Dennis Mellersh
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