Why we need to focus on today October 15, 2012
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Living in the Now.Tags: controlling ego, ego management, Focusing on the present, focussing, personal development, personal growth
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It is important to manage the ego’s tendency to constantly shift back to the past and forward to the future.
Otherwise we can lose sight of the present, which is the only place we can really accomplish anything.
The ego, for example, seems to refuse to believe that the past cannot be recreated and thinks that the future can be lived in now.
Although it is true that we are each of us called upon to create our own future, we cannot do it by changing the past, nor can we actually act in the future.
We can only act in the now. We create the future with our actions today, in the present.
During a discussion with a self-help group, one of the participants offered up the following equation or formula for the group to consider:
One eye on yesterday + one eye on tomorrow = cross-eyed today
Ego Management: Focus on what you can control October 5, 2012
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Goal Setting and Realization.Tags: achieving goals, controlling ego, ego management, focussing, managing the ego, setting goals
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In the ongoing effort to manage or control our ego (that constantly chattering voice inside our head) we often spread ourselves too thin, and set up a path for failure, by tackling areas of our lives over which we have little or no control.
Instead, although it is difficult, we should look at our life situation analytically and make an effort to decide which areas of our overall life circumstances are within our power to change and which areas are beyond our ability to effect change.
There is a traditional prayer asking for the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, for courage to change the things we can, and for the wisdom to know the difference.
Being able to know the difference will take a lot of internal work for each of us, but it is key to success in calming that inner voice that wants us to look at every problem as being solvable by us.
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