Personal growth: The persistence of intolerance April 5, 2017
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth.Tags: intolerance, life, Michel de Montaigne, personal development, philosophy, self-actualization, writing
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By Dennis Mellersh
Our tendency towards resistance, intolerance, and non-acceptance of what is new and complex is an ageless phenomenon.
And so, the need for self-examination and making efforts to cultivate an open mind – key principles of our self-actualization programs.
Writing in 1580 in his first book of essays, Michel de Montaigne noted, “…it is a stupid presumption to go about despising and condemning as false, anything that seems to us improbable; this is a common fault in those who think they have more intelligence than the crowd…it is a dangerous and serious presumption…to condemn what we do not understand.”
Montaigne was witnessing firsthand an era of rapid explosion of knowledge and opinion through book publishing, in turn due to advances in printing technology that were making information widely available in books printed in national languages.
Montaigne called these languages the “vulgar tongue.” Books previously were available primarily in the classical, ancient languages of Latin and Greek.
As if in anticipation of the intolerance and resistance expressed through the modern practice of “commenting” in the age of the Internet, Montaigne wrote about “the rashness of those hasty critics who pounce on writings of every sort, especially on new books…written in the vulgar tongue – a practice which allows the whole world to comment, and seemingly to prove that their conception and design are vulgar also.”
He included himself in this criticism, noting, “Pride and curiosity are the two scourges of our souls. The latter prompts us to poke our noses into everything, and the former forbids us to leave anything unresolved and undecided.” (1)
(1) Montaigne quotations from Montaigne Essays, translated by J.M. Cohen, Penguin Classics, Penguin Books Ltd., 1971
Personal growth: Wasting people and wasting words April 4, 2017
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Solving Problems.Tags: Confucius, life, lifestyle, personal development, personal growth program, philosophy, self-actualization
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By Dennis Mellersh
Knowing when we should share advice and when we should withhold it can be an important skill or aptitude to develop in our personal development and self-actualization learning program.
Sometimes we don’t share when our input is needed by someone and other times we share when the recipient is not open to receiving it.
The ancient Chinese philosopher Confucius sums up the predicament this way:
“When a person is capable of understanding your words and you refuse to speak, you’re wasting a person. When a person isn’t capable of understanding your words and you speak anyway, you’re wasting words. The wise waste neither words nor people.” (1)
Not always easy however to determine which of the two divergent scenarios we are dealing with.
That’s why it’s a skill; and it takes some time and work to learn.
(1) Quoted in The Analects as translated by David Hinton in his book The Four Chinese Classics