Personal Growth: Staying in the present moment April 23, 2019
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Living in the Now.Tags: Eckhart Tolle, focussing, life, negative thinking, personal growth, philosophy, self-actualization, The Power of Now, the present moment, writing
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Most of us won’t admit it, but we often spend a large proportion of our mind-time on revisiting the past and particular in visiting the future by anticipating and visualizing how our life situation is likely to unfold; and in so looking, we tend not to foresee options but rather make assumptions on probabilities, often negatively.
In trying to be in two places at once, we miss opportunities in the most important third place…the present moment.
Eckhart Tolle sums up this paradox nicely in his book The Power of Now:
“To be identified with your mind is to be trapped in time; the compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation…This creates an endless preoccupation with past and future.
The Now is the most precious thing there is. The eternal present is the space in which your whole life unfolds.
Life is now.”
Personal growth: Regrets for what we did not do October 21, 2017
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Living in the Now.Tags: emotion of regret, life, living in the now, philosophy, psychology, self-actualization, the present moment, writing
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All of us have done things in our lives, that on reflection, we wish we had not done. But for the most part, studies show, people regret more what they didn’t do in their lives.
* The friends we didn’t keep in touch with
* The time we didn’t spend with our families
* The enjoyable projects we did not undertake
* The apology we didn’t make
* The good intention that we didn’t follow-up on
* The money we didn’t save
But all of this “not doing” is not a pattern we willfully construct.
Rather, I think, it’s the result of thinking there will always be a tomorrow, when eventually and inevitably there will be no tomorrow.
As part of our personal development and self-actualization efforts, we need to remind ourselves of this reality and focus on the opportunities we have today.
Not the opportunities we might have tomorrow.
—Dennis Mellersh
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