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Allowing the diminishment of the ego April 1, 2014

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management.
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As we have learned in our ongoing efforts with our personal development, our ego can have a negative effect on our ability to realize our growth goals.

This is because the ego frequently works against what we consciously know to be our best interests.

Eckhart Tolle has written and spoken extensively about these negative tendencies of the ego and of how we can control or better manage the ego’s destructive tendencies.

In his book, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose, Tolle offers a number of techniques to accomplish this.

One of these is “allowing the diminishment of the ego.”

Tolle considers the emotion of anger to be one of the ego’s main repair mechanisms.  He cites the example of our being in a situation in which the ego wants us to react with immediate angry words.

Instead, Tolle suggests we resist the urge to react immediately and defensively. Instead, say nothing for a few moments, collect ourselves, and then speak with deliberation and calmness.

Reacting with anger Tolle says, “causes a temporary, but huge ego inflation.”

By contrast, reacting with calmness, yet still responding firmly and clearly, “diminishes” the ego and its defensiveness…There will be power behind your words, yet no reactive force,” Tolle explains.

By practicing this frequently, the ego’s repair mechanism of anger is thwarted, and the ego is diminished, thus making us more conscious and in better control.


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