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Personal growth: The self-destruction of approval-seeking March 24, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth.
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By Dennis Mellersh

Our efforts to better ourselves through self-assessment and subsequent self-improvement actions can be self-sabotaged by various forms of seemingly minor, harmless forms of approval-seeking.

The psychological damage or self-sabotage to occurs because some forms of approval-seeking can take us away from acting or speaking in our own authentic voice, especially in creative work.

When we mold ourselves and our work, even in small ways, to fit the parameters of what we think others will want and accept, we lose.

And, on top of eroding our own personal convictions and values, approval-seeking generally does not work.

Those we seek to attract can sense when what we are presenting is insincere and inauthentic.

Better, when we are starting out, for example, to have a dedicated fan base of 100 for work we really believe in than to initially attract thousands only to lose them when they realize our work is not much different from that of everyone else.

And even if we were able to build and sustain a large following based on personal inauthenticity, doing so would not be satisfying.

Our most rewarding successes come when we are true to ourselves.


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