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Setting realistic expectations for personal growth May 12, 2014

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth, Goal Setting and Realization.
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One of the troubling and irritating tendencies we see with some personal growth writers and self-improvement philosophers is the idea that the only restrictions on our personal development potential are the limits that we impose on ourselves.

This theory is fine as long as it is meant to encourage us to set ambitious goals, to seek ideals, to do everything in our power to maximize our improvement efforts.

But the idea that there are absolutely no limits is flawed.

To tell people that anything is possible as long we set our hearts on it, work hard, and have faith, is to essentially be promoting an alternate universe of non-reality.

If taken to heart the “no limits” theory could damage our self-esteem and jeopardize our entire personal growth program.

We can have strong self-esteem and confidence in our ability to overcome obstacles, but if our goals are not realistic we are opening ourselves up to discouragement and eventual failure with our program.

Realistic goals + hard work = success and encouragement to do more

Unrealistic goals + hard work = failure and discouragement of further effort

The take-away

It’s not always that something is absolutely impossible.

It’s just that it might not be possible for us in our particular circumstances.

To be able to recognize the difference is an important part of progress in our personal growth efforts.

Personal growth: Making your creative talent accessible May 10, 2014

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth, Overcoming Fear.
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If you are planning to include an imaginative component in your self-improvement program, such as creative writing, you may want to consider “going public” with your output, rather than keeping your originality to yourself.

If your creative talent (writing, painting, or other artistic pursuit) is something that you want to engage in primarily for personal therapeutic purposes (as with journaling, for example) there can be valid reasons why you don’t want the public to see your work.

However if you are seeking greater self-actualization or self-realization through your creative talent and feel you have “something to say” that other people could benefit from, then reaching a larger public could be helpful to both you and your audience. Showing other people your creative work can be part of your process of individuation.

Until relatively recently however reaching a public market in the creative sphere was largely controlled by gatekeepers in the “art world” and the publishing industry, to give two examples.

Now however, with free platforms for expressing your creativity, such as wordpress.com, you can have a blog to publish and distribute your creative content.

This does take some courage, however, and a willingness to accept whatever the public reaction might be to your work. But the effort to reach an audience with your originality could ultimately be inwardly rewarding and thereby be a significant accomplishment in your personal growth program

There is an old aphorism that there is nothing sadder than for a person to go through their entire life not letting their talents shine, and then “dying with their music still inside them.”

This is essentially what happened with the American poet Emily Dickinson (1830-1886) who, for various reasons, kept the vast majority of her 1,800 poems hidden in her bedroom. Only a handful of her poems were published during her lifetime. The remainder were published after her death.

So, she never got the satisfaction of reaching the public with her originality, nor could the public at that time benefit from her creative efforts. Dickinson is now recognized as one of America’s most outstanding and unique poetic voices