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Break a negative habit by making its elimination part of a positive larger goal October 18, 2012

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Self-Discipline.
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As part of our programs of personal development or self-improvement, and ego management, we include looking for ways to accentuate our good habits and for ways to reduce or eliminate our bad habits.

I recently came across a comment of someone who eliminated their smoking habit.

This person indicated they were facing a number of serious challenges in their life, and decided that it was foolish to use up valuable energy through the habit; energy that could better put into meeting the challenges in life that the person was facing.

Overall, this translates into a concept of removing the energy-draining properties of a bad habit by making the elimination of the habit a key component in achieving a larger positive goal.

Instead of the focus being solely on the negative aspects of the habit, attention should thereby be given to the positive potential of increasing our contribution to achieving our goals in life and in our personal development key result areas, by eliminating the habit.

Imagination, persistence, and courage in personal development March 11, 2012

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Self-Discipline.
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In our efforts towards self-improvement or personal development, discouragement, and even fear, may set in periodically as our personal growth goals are not being realized as fast as we would like.

In this case persistence and courage are two of the personal development traits that we need to develop. While doing some research on various approaches to goal setting and self-realization, I came across the following statement by Winston S. Churchill, in which he speaks of persistence and courage in trying to stay true to our guiding principles: “Never give in; never give in, never, never, never, never – in nothing, great or small, large or petty – never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense.”

For sensitive and introspective people who are working on a program of self-improvement or personal growth and development, however, our personalities can sometimes produce fears and self-doubts and thereby interfere with our efforts towards our personal growth goals. Our imagination, can lead us into periods of intellectual uncertainty and fearfulness.

However, as Churchill points out in another comment, these fears are normal for sensitive, imaginative people: “You cannot tell from appearances how things will go. Sometimes imagination makes things out far worse than they are; yet without imagination not much can be done. Those people who are imaginative see many more dangers than perhaps exist; certainly many more than will happen; but then they must also pray to be given that extra courage to carry this far-reaching imagination.”

These quotations are from a speech Churchill gave in 1941 during the 2nd World War, a talk that has become known as his “Never Give In” speech.