Why we need to focus on today October 15, 2012
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Living in the Now.Tags: controlling ego, ego management, Focusing on the present, focussing, personal development, personal growth
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It is important to manage the ego’s tendency to constantly shift back to the past and forward to the future.
Otherwise we can lose sight of the present, which is the only place we can really accomplish anything.
The ego, for example, seems to refuse to believe that the past cannot be recreated and thinks that the future can be lived in now.
Although it is true that we are each of us called upon to create our own future, we cannot do it by changing the past, nor can we actually act in the future.
We can only act in the now. We create the future with our actions today, in the present.
During a discussion with a self-help group, one of the participants offered up the following equation or formula for the group to consider:
One eye on yesterday + one eye on tomorrow = cross-eyed today
Self-improvement: The past does not equal the future October 10, 2012
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Ego Management, Overcoming Fear.Tags: achieving goals, ego management, focus on the present, managing the ego, self-improvement, Tony Robbins
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In managing our ego or our mindset towards ongoing improvement in our life circumstances, what you do now and in the future is more important than what you did or did not do in the past.
Tony Robbins makes an important point in his book Notes to a Friend, when he comments, “What you did in the past does not determine what you will do in the future.”
Robbins is not saying that what we have done in the past has absolutely no effect on the future, because it does. What he is saying is that we can change how we take actions today; and the actions of today can be different than how we acted in the past.
It’s an important distinction because the ego’s tendency is to focus on the past and the unknown, rather than on the reality of today.
If we are constantly revisiting the past with all of its mistakes and omissions, or worrying about possible problems in the future, it is difficult to focus on positive actions we can take today.
It’s worth remembering that there are second chances in life.
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