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Personal Development: The hidden benefits of failure June 15, 2017

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Personal Development Potential.
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In working our personal development programs, it can sometimes be difficult to remember that there are positive benefits inherent in the inevitable failures on our road to success.

Author Michael Korda suggests that we should “Never walk away from failure [but] on the contrary, study it carefully and imaginatively for its hidden assets.”

Most of us can see the learning opportunities in everyday “learning curve” failures.

However, if the failure is substantial and significant enough, or if failures are occurring much too often, finding those “hidden assets” can be problematic.

In this case, we might benefit from this overview by Tony Robbins:

Success is the result of good judgement.
Good judgement is the result of experience.
Experience is of the result of bad judgement. (1)

(1) Tony Robbins, Notes From a Friend, A Fireside Book, Published by Simon and Schuster, New York, 1995

— Dennis Mellersh

 

Personal growth: Our past does not equal our future May 20, 2014

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth, Living in the Now.
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One of the impediments to effectively implementing our personal growth and development programs can be the way we look at our past, and the attributes we apply to our past behaviour.

The past can be a barrier to forward progress in self-improvement if we look at it through a pessimistic and fatalistic perspective.

We might view the past and its problems as a negative indicator of how things will be in the future.

We might look at our past and fill our minds with regret of what we did or didn’t do.

We might negatively assess our entire personality based on our past.

One conclusion is inescapable; our past behaviour does affect our present and future circumstances.

However, can can’t un-do the past. We can only work in the present to build a positive outcome for the future.

In his book, Notes From a Friend, Tony Robbins makes a significant and carefully worded statement about the past and the future:
“Remember that what you did in the past does not determine what you’ll do in the future.”

In other words, we may not be able to change what we did in the past or its influence on our lives today, but we can change how we will act, what we will do, in the future.

In his comment Robbins is emphasising that behavioural change is possible, that our actions now can positively affect our future; that our past behaviour pattern does not have to be our future behaviour pattern.

We can’t un-ring a bell, but we can ring a new bell.

Positive thinking versus negative thinking.