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Personal growth: The power of transformative resilience January 31, 2018

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal growth.
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When a calamitous event knocks us down in life, the usual, and perhaps simplistic, advice is to simply get up and bounce back; however there may be a more effective and life-altering approach towards moving forward, a process described in the New York Times online edition as transformative resilience.

In an article titled The 6 Steps to Turning Setbacks into Advantages, the writer reports on recent research demonstrating how various people dealt with major and seemingly crippling life-setbacks through a six-stage process known as transformative resilience.

Essentially the process involves using a major setback as a foundation for significant personal growth and effectiveness.

The article highlights the story of a young woman, who although possessing a Master’s Degree, was unable to get a decent-paying job, and was burdened with almost $100,000 in student debt.

She went through various stages of despair, which included suicide ideation,  in her journey out of this difficult situation, started a blog detailing her progress, and eventually began counselling people in response to them writing to her for advice on their employment difficulties and student debt problems.

My takeaway from the article is that the process of transformative resilience is a practical working example of the old adage: If life hands us lemons, make lemonade.

Our problems can actually become the life-changing catalyst for their solutions – solutions that go beyond simple problem-solving, but rather transform our lives.

I could not get a link that worked to the article, so to read the full article, I would suggest you enter the following in a search engine like google:

New York Times The 6 Steps to Turning Setbacks into Advantages

— Dennis Mellersh

Personal growth: Enabling our feelings one day at a time January 25, 2018

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Goal Setting and Realization.
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In our personal development efforts towards efficiency and effectiveness, many of us start our day with a prioritized to-do list, but in addition to focussing on actions, we may be able to improve our sense of well-being by also focussing on the feelings we would like to develop within ourselves during the day.

Feelings such as:

Calmness and peacefulness

Gratitude for the good things in our life

Trusting in our intuition

Looking forward to the experiences of the day

Thinking about doing what we love.

The suggestion to focus at the beginning of each day on the feelings we would like to develop during the  day is a key element in Arnold Patent’s  concept of the Ideal Day Exercise.

Patent discusses this and other self-actualization ideas in his his book entitled You Can Have it All : The art of winning the money game and living a life of joy.

He writes:

“The ultimate function of the Ideal Day Exercise is to put us in touch with the only part of us that is real – our joyfulness…Each day that we do the Ideal Day Exercise, we release more joyfulness.”

An idea we might consider trying.

— Dennis Mellersh