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Should you openly discuss your personal growth? April 8, 2014

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal development.
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One of the temptations many of us face in becoming involved in a program of personal growth is that of wanting to tell people about our enthusiasm for the program and how we are progressing with it.

And with the advent of our enjoying the publishing/sharing capability of social media, including blogs, the “telling” can involve openly public disclosure of our views and personal experiences on topics such as self-improvement, self-awareness, building self-esteem, improving self-knowledge, and our spiritual development
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The question then arises; is it a good idea for us to “share” such personal information and opinion on open platforms?

Some say we should keep our views to ourselves.

Yet, throughout thousands of years of human history, some of the greatest thinkers in personal and spiritual growth have actively promoted their views and have exposed their innermost emotions and thoughts to public scrutiny.

It is often through their personal stories that we gain the greatest benefit.

And, had they not done so, some of the world’s best and most helpful wisdom-thinking would have gone with these forward thinkers to their graves, rather than being available to help us in our individual journeys of self-improvement.

However, for anyone thinking of openly communicating their self-improvement program, and particularly if personally identifying themselves as the source of that information, be aware that your enthusiasm may not be reciprocated by everyone who reads/views your communications.

And, oddly, the reaction of friends and family may not be positive because one of the first instincts of our friends is to try to protect us from discouragement when we are trying out a new set of ideas, or embarking on a project that has failure as a possible outcome.

In other words, if you are seeking agreement or validation of your thinking through public media you may not find it.

On the other hand, a spirited discussion may be exactly what you are looking for as a catalyst to make you thoroughly analyze and dissect your views to see if your thinking can stand up to challenges.

Further reading:

On the question of seeking validation, Seth Godin has written about the possible pitfalls of “Looking for validation in all the wrong places” at the following URL:

http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2014/04/looking-for-validation-in-all-the-wrong-places.html

Self-awareness and choosing personal growth goals April 6, 2014

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal development, Goal Setting and Realization.
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The process of choosing our goals needs to be an integral part of our overall personal process of self-actualization if we are to reach our potential in our personal improvement efforts.

In conscientiously and regularly working at a program of self-improvement or personal development, two results will usually occur: we will increase our self-awareness, and we will improve our self-knowledge.

This acceleration in our understanding of ourselves in turn will help us in identifying our strengths and talents and in clarifying our areas of lesser strengths – aspects of our personality in which we may want to increase our effectiveness.

It’s important that our goals be ones that we choose or decide upon after this process of introspection.

As you have probably already discovered, the need for having personal goals is one of the most common recommendations in the literature of the self-empowerment movement.

But the goals must be “ours”, not ones which we think, from our reading, “should” be our goals.

If the goals are not ones we feel passionate about achieving, if they are “should do” goals instead of “want to” or “personally need to do” goals, then failure is a strong probability.

Thought for today

“People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them.”
– Tony Robbins