Personal growth: The counter-energy of carrying the past October 4, 2017
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Living in the Now.Tags: A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle, ego management, life, living in the past, philosophy, psychology, self-actualization, writing
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One of the ways we can obscure our true selves and thereby block our advance to more complete self-actualization is through our tendency to burden our thought processes with the weight of the past.
If we are not careful, over time, we can add so many individual internalized concerns to “the voice in our heads” that it seems as if we are making our self-improvement journey while wearing 25-pound shoes on our feet.
This tendency of not living in the Now, in the present, can negate our efforts to reach our personal development potential.
In his book, A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle tells an illustrative story:
Two Zen monks were walking in the country and came across a young girl who could not cross a road covered in deep mud, for fear of ruining her silk kimono.
One monk picked the girl up and carried her to the other side, and the monks walked on in silence.
Finally, after five hours, the other monk could not restrain himself: “Why did you carry that girl across the road? We monks are not supposed to do things like that.” The other monk replied, “I put the girl down hours ago. Are you still carrying her?”
Tolle suggests we should try to imagine what life would be like for someone like that irritated monk, who cannot seem to “let go internally of situations, accumulating more and more ‘stuff’ inside…”
“Stuff” such as grievances, regrets, hostility, and guilt.
The lingering “stuff” inside eventually becomes our dominant intellectual and emotional “story,” a story that can take over our perception of ourselves, and become a negatively limiting identity, Tolle believes.
In A New Earth Tolle seeks to advise us how to extricate ourselves from this trap.
— Dennis Mellersh
Living in day-tight compartments: Difficult, but necessary June 6, 2017
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Living in the Now.Tags: day-tight-compartments, life, lifestyle, personal development, personal growth, philosophy, self-improvement, visualization, writing
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At some point in our personal development work, many of us will come across the advice that we should try to live in day-tight compartments.
And, although it’s good advice, it’s also very tough to do consistently.
Most of us like to dream about the future, to make plans (often just in our heads) about what we would like to do with our lives. We like to think about all the possible options available to us and imagine our lives unfolding within those options and life-possibilities.
In this mind-frame, self-improvement opportunities are abundant, and we enjoy mentally imagining ourselves within these scenarios.
This type of personal growth projecting provides a pleasant and sometimes even mildly euphoric mental and emotional experience.
It’s enjoyable.
But, if we aren’t careful, it can also evolve into day-dreaming and hiding.
When we are young, the paths of life seem like infinite six-lane highways of potential that we can explore endlessly.
But with each new year, we will find that increasingly, the lanes of opportunity are actually finite and choices need to be made.
We can still plan, we can still dream, but we also need to start “doing” today and every day.
— Dennis Mellersh
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