Are you needlessly postponing your dreams because of your personal growth program? February 24, 2014
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal development, Living in the Now.Tags: achieving goals, delayed gratification, focussing, personal development, personal growth, personal growth program
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In our efforts to maximize our personal development potential we can sometimes fall into the trap of over-prioritizing to the point where our personal growth efforts become unbalanced. This can ha ppen, for example, if we put too much stress, or the wrong emphasis, on the benefits of the concept of delayed gratification – denying ourselves something pleasurable or enjoyable now, for a greater benefit in the future.
Clearly it is better to forgo having that large chocolate sundae now for the future benefit of a healthier body. Similarly it’s probably a good idea to avoid that second latte every day, or other indulgences, in order to put aside some money for a “rainy day” fund for unanticipated expenses, or for a future holiday you would like to have with your family.
However, it’s not necessarily a good idea to constantly future-forward a dream you would like to follow, in order to instead practice today some element of your personal growth program.
To avoid what we might call dream-procrastination, the key is balance.
If, for example you have intellectual development, say reading a significant book, for example, as part of your daily personal growth program, and you also have a dream about writing a book, why not start writing your book a few days each week, in place of reading a book on those days.
Taking time now to pursue your dreams-for-the-future is just as important, if not more so, than daily over-emphasizing and committing too much time to an abstract concept of personal development. Practising delayed gratification of our dreams can hit us hard emotionally when we reach that stage in life when we suddenly realize that there is no longer time to realize and enjoy those dreams.
Combatting discouragement in our personal growth program January 3, 2013
Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Discouragement.Tags: achieving goals, controlling the ego, ego management, mental-health, negative thinking, personal development, positive thinking, self improvement program, self-improvement
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In pursuing our personal growth goals there can be times when discouragement sets in.
This can be caused by such factors as: a failure to achieve a personal development goal within a specified time period; the inability to “get going” effectively on our overall self-improvement program; or perhaps the realization that a growth goal we previously set has to be abandoned.
However feeling discouraged about our program can also be caused by other circumstances.
I am reminded of a “slogan” and acronym I have heard several times that relates to this situation, namely, HALT.
The letters stand for:
Hungry
Angry
Lonely
Tired
If you have a lack of energy because you are hungry you may become discouraged
If you are angry about something your judgement will be affected
If you are lonely, it can make you feel “down”
If you are tired you may not feel like taking a new initiative
The remedies for these circumstances are fairly obvious, and may even sound simplistic, but they are not necessarily easy to do when you are feeling “blue”, so you will need to push yourself:
Eat sensibly throughout the day to maintain stable blood sugar levels
Examine you angry and use your ego management techniques to improve emotional balance
Get out of the house and meet people, even if it is just going to the coffee shop
Get proper rest to maintain effective energy levels.