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Personal development: Trusting our natural abilities April 21, 2014

Posted by Dennis Mellersh in Concept of personal development, Concept of personal growth.
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The concept of personal growth does not necessarily mean that we have to improve virtually every area of our lives and personalities.

Each of us unique talents and abilities, and these strengths may be solid enough, without significant improvement, to serve as a strong foundation for our overall program.

A few examples of innate strengths

  • We may have a strong sense of compassion, a quality which can help us in our efforts to build better relationships
  • Our self-knowledge may already be well developed, and we can use this attribute to help us make decisions on which of our personality characteristics may need more work
  • If we have good self-esteem we have an effective tool to help us avoid discouragement with the inevitable slow spots or bumps in our self-improvement efforts
  • If we are analytical and logical in our approach to problems, we can use this characteristic in the difficult challenge of learning to manage our emotions
  • If we have a strong sense of purpose, we can use that skill to better identify goals and be consistent in our pursuit of achieving them

To move forward with energy in our self-actualization efforts, we should trust in these collective capabilities because, combined with a positive mental outlook, they can help us achieve success.

Don Juan Matus, in one of his “conversations” with Carlos Castaneda commented, “Trust your personal power. That’s all one has in this whole mysterious world.”

Then speaking of the warrior class, he added, “A warrior is impeccable when he trusts his personal power regardless of whether it is small or enormous.” (1)

(1) Journey to Ixtlan: The Lessons of Don Juan, Carlos Castaneda,  Washington Square Press, Pocket Books, New York, 1974, pp. 167-168

 

Personal growth: Is empathy intuitive or learned? April 20, 2014

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For a program of personal growth and development to be complete, experts tell us that it is important for us to work on fostering the moral attribute or virtue of empathy within ourselves

Within the concept of personal development or self-improvement we could define empathy as being the ability to recognize, understand, and appreciate the feelings or emotions being experienced by another person, or any living entity that has feelings and emotions.

This Personal Development Potential post presents some ideas, or factors to consider, concerning the quality of empathy, rather than trying to provide definitive scientific answers on this abstract human ability.

A key question is whether we possess the attribute of empathy intuitively, or do we need to undergo a variety of circumstances, experiences, and /or education in order to have this capability.

Questions relating to non-intuitive empathy:

These questions involve the paradigm of personal experience as opposed to non-personal experience.

A few possibilities or examples:

(1) Do we have to have gone through a period of poverty in our own lives to appreciate the pain of people who are poor?
(2) Do we have to have or have had some personal mental or physical limitation in order to sympathize with a person who is mentally or physically challenged?
(3) Do we need to have lost a loved one in order to have empathy with someone who has suffered a personal loss?
(4) Do we have to have failed with an important financial project in order to empathize with a friend who has gone bankrupt?

Alternatively, can experience with opposites create empathy?

Turning around the above questions 1-4 we can ask:

(1) Can being financially secure help us to appreciate or understand the difficulties and emotions induced by poverty?
(2) Can being perfectly healthy mentally and physically help us to empathize better with people who are not?
(3) Can never having experienced grief help us to appreciate someone else’s loss?
(4) Can being highly successful in our lives help us to have empathy for the person who has failed with their major life-projects?

Such questions unfortunately, are just that – they are not answers.

But hopefully, sympathetic feelings and human decency are inherent or intuitive, and this, combined with our work on self-improvement, will imbue us with the character attribute of genuine empathy.

Appreciation and understanding through opposites

There is an interesting viewpoint on the generative quality of opposites expressed in the Tao Te Ching, as translated by David Hinton:

All beneath heaven know beauty is beauty
only because there’s ugliness,
and knows good is good,
because there’s evil.

Being and Absence give birth to one another,
difficult and easy complete one another,
long and short measure one another,
music and noise harmonize one another,
before and after follow one another. (1)

1) The Four Chinese Classics: Tao Te Ching, Chuang Tzu, Analects, Mencius, Translated by David Hinton, Counterpoint Press, Berkeley, California, 2013

(Hinton provides an excellent overview of these classics, which helps in understanding the thought process of each of these Chinese ancient sages.

Further reading:

There is an extensive scholarly article on empathy on the Wikipedia website at the following URL:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy